We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives.
Raise. Awareness.
For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.
There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively – they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.
Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.
I’ve never even heard of this??
Me neither. 😦
Thank you for sharing bc I think I might actually have this but I thought it was just me. I can barely handle so much as a tampon. Will have to bring this up at my next doctor’s appointment.
So, there is a website dedicated to vaginismus which I suffered from for years and had no idea how to talk about it. I found this website ten or twelve years ago and bought some of their products which helped immensely. I know nothing about the medications, but the dilator set is probably the best you can do because it is a way to help widen the vagina on your own terms. I still have mine even though I haven’t needed it for years because it could come back later.
One thing I appreciated about this website is that it emphasized that this is not your fault. Another thing I learned was that one cause could just be, you know, being part of a culture that gives women extreme anxiety about sex. This resource helped me when I was a lot younger and terrified that I was broken.
Anyways, here’s the website. Please share it with everyone you know: x
a knew a person who had this problem specifically because of extreme anxiety. not about any particular thing, but ESPECIALLY it ramped up around the vague idea of relationships, which they’d never been in before- and what if they were “bad” at it? what if they didn’t look/act/smell/whatever *just right*? and that was just the start
hypertension everywhere from anxiety means fucking everywhere you have muscles
like you know, the pelvic floor
fuck patriarchy and fuck the toxic notion that a proven thing happening with someone’s body is psychosomatic *just because* it’s a “female problem”. plenty of people are intersex or trans and have the same damn issues. derail gender vs. sex politics and undo binary ideas about sex and the whole bullshit system comes down.
vaginusmus is real and much more common than you think. fuck, it can even be triggered by PCOS pain, by hormone imbalances that make sex painful, by a retroverted uterus (happens with about 1 in 4-5 people who have one) that makes sex painful- and you seize up automatically because of anticipating pain.
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