IM LAUGHING SO HARD I DIDNT THINK SEXUAL DESIRE WAS A REAL THING LIKE I ALWAYS SAW PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT HOW THEY WANTED SEX BUT I THOUGHT THEY WERE JOKING OR EXAGGERATING OR SOMETHING THATS WHY IT WAS SO HARD FOR ME TO REALIZE I WAS ACE BECAUSE I THOUGHT IT WENT WITHOUT SAYING SEX ISNT THAT IMPORTANT IM 19 YEARS OLD I CANT STOP LAUGHING LITERALLY 99% OF THE POPULATION EXPERIENCES SEXUAL DESIRE AND I THOUGHT IT WAS A JOKE
This is pretty much the definition of being an ace person, tbh, and I’m so glad.
this is literally the #that sounds fake but okay meme im dying
#ME#I THOUGHT SEXUAL ATTRACTION WAS RARE#AKA#HOW TO FIND OUT YOU’RE DEMI (via @miseryauthoress)
Honestly, every single cheating plotline never made sense because “but why do you have to have sex with them? just don’t??”
^^^^ Every single cheating plot line ever I was like: What is so hard about keeping your pants on what is your problem??
…do you have any idea how hard it is to do literary criticism that will get published when your reaction to at least 75% of character motivations is this makes no sense whatsoever why do they even care?
When people ask you why you don’t date someone just to try, and when you answer that well you’re not interested in that person, they explain that usually you don’t like the person at first, but you might fall in love after having dated a little while
and you’re just?????? but what?????????? is the point of dating someone if you don’t like them??????????????
what do you mean the point is making out and sex????????? why would i want to do that with someone i don’t already like?????????
I have literally experienced all of these.
my realizations laid out before me. xD;;;
this is adjacent to the Bi Realization of like “oh my god… there are people who… only like… ONE gender??? like, at all? Ever?!?!!?”
Yeah like I know baby boomers who talk like this and you can kind of just tell they don’t have the words and the self acceptance to realize this sorta thing is what’s happening
The extra twist is growing up in evangelical purity culture, so everybody makes a big deal of abstinence and True Love Waits and everything, and you’re just kind of like “okay, sure, that’s easy, why is everyone acting like it’s hard? anyway abstinence, cool, I’m doing what I’m supposed to, no big.” (Kind of like how “just say NO to drugs” campaigns feel baffling when you’ve never been offered drugs and you’re not interested anyway.) And then you get to college and away from the purity culture echo chamber finally and you’re like “wait. wait. are you telling me sex IS a big deal for people?? it’s not just like…exaggeration in the media and kids rebelling for the sake of rebelling??? wtf???”
and that’s how purity culture can both prevent you from realizing asexuality is a thing AND insulate you from feeling broken about it for a long time, which means you get a whole series of super weird revelations as an adult when you’re finally less sheltered
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