it is possible to be both a mlm and a wlw.
it’s possible to be both at once. it’s possible to be a mlm one day and a wlw the next.
these communities are not mutually exclusive and they need to be more welcoming of multigender and genderfluid people and others that don’t fit into one or the other binary box.
also, you don’t have to be either. being neither wlw nor mlm doesn’t mean you’re straight! maybe you’re nblw, or nblm, or nblnb, or aroace. if you are nonbinary you don’t have to classify yourself in a binary way.
if you feel comfortable doing so, that’s great & i’m proud of you!
but if you don’t, then know that you don’t have to in order to be accepted here.